Thursday, August 04, 2005

Just a Good Ol' Catholic School Girl

By now you've probably heard about yet another sex scandal involving a female school teacher and teenage boys.

(CBS) A female teacher at a Catholic high school in Albany, N.Y., allegedly had sex with a male student and, reports Judy Sanders of CBS affiliate WRGB-TV in Albany on The Early Show, he's not the only one with whom she's said to have had relations.

Beth Geisel, a 42-year-old Christian Brothers Academy writing instructor, mother of four and wife of a bank president, said nothing as she surrendered to face charges of raping a 16-year-old male student last May.

... The school fired Geisel after she was caught having sex with a 17-year-old CBA student in the back of a car June 10, says Sanders.

Because that student was of legal age to give consent, there were no charges filed.

Okay, so she's married to an old fart and decides she wants some hot young action. But geez, with her teenaged students?

Police point out sex with an under-aged boy is just as serious as with a girl, though its not always treated that way.

I absolutely agree with that. This woman is a sexual predator. She might not fit the stereotype of one, but that's what she is. People often say that stereotypes exist for a reason, but this is a perfect example of why we can't rely on them.

"Unfortunately," says Colonie Police Chief Steve Heider, "our society precludes a lot of young men from reporting it, because it is thought of a conquest, not a victimization."

Now I can't get Van Halen's Hot for Teacher out of my head. I realize the song isn't meant to be taken seriously and I don't wish to censor it, but I think the attitude it portrays is quite common. And that does make it harder for boys to say no to sex. While girls have to deal with the virgin/whore dichotomy, boys are taught that they should always want sex -- even if they're not ready for it.

I know I had fantasies about a 20-something male teacher when I was a senior in high school. It was hard to concentrate on his lectures because my mind kept wandering. But had he ever tried to hit on me, I would not have been ready for it. I was only ready for it in fantasy, not reality. Perhaps these boys felt the same way. The difference is that their teacher used her position to her advantage, and mine didn't.

**WARNING**: I'm about to speak frankly, and in a very un-PC way. I can see why Geisel is sexually attracted to 16 and 17 year old boys. Some of them are pretty hot. Boys (and girls) are maturing faster these days, and it is natural for us to desire them. They don't look like boys; they look like men. And I'm sorry to break it to all the fundies out there, but women actually do have sexual desires. And we often desire young men. They are hot. (Some older men are hot, too. I'm just sayin'...)

But -- and this is a **BIG** but -- Geisel is still wrong, and she is still a sexual predator. The fact that 16 year old boys are hot is not an excuse for what she did. Our hormones tell us to do lots of things that are wrong. It's our responsibility to keep it under control. I am sick of people using the excuse that it's "natural" to do something, and therefore it should be excused. Bullshit! I wouldn't let a man stalking teenage girls use that excuse.

Yet I'm not so sure it should be illegal for an adult to have sex with a 16 year old (regardless of gender). I happen to think our society infantalizes teenagers unnecessarily. They aren't children. Most 16 year olds are capable of consenting to sex in my opinion. In Iowa, the legal age is 16. So it would be perfectly legal for Geisel to move to Iowa and have sex with all the 16 year old boys she wants.

I would like to know what other people think on this one. What should be the legal age? 16, 17, or something else? I think we do need a legal age in order to protect children, but 16 seems old enough to me for both boys and girls.

I'm Ba-ack

Did you miss me? I'll be making a post after work today. I haven't been at my job long enough to actually blog from there. ;)

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